What’s good family! I thought it would be wise to have “the talk” with you. In my testimony one of the major areas the Lord had to mature me in was my walk with sexual purity. I know many of us fight a similar battle. Let it be known that you are not alone and your Savior sympathizes with your struggle. Yet the sin of sexual immorality is not one to be played around with. We should hate it. I mean truly hate it.
So let us consider 10 ways we can put to death whatever belongs to our earthly nature - Colossians 3:5
1. Avoid being alone (Rhythm of Communication- Accountability)
In this season of pandemic, loneliness can often creep in. We all desire friendship, companionship, and want to be known by others. The truth is that in these situations people substitute these good desires for sexual desires. Push against this by seeking others to communicate with. Be transparent with and accountable to each other. Talk about things you both enjoy. Extroverts and introverts have different capacities for this, but you both have a need for this.
2. Watch ow you are alone together (Dating)
I think it goes without saying, but I’ll say it again as a reminder: Beware of how you spend time with the one you are dating. An excess amount of time with one another alone can cause unnecessary temptation. Even a heightened longing to be with one another can arouse good feelings that can lead you into immoral behavior, if not guarded against.
3. Get somewhere to be alone (Intimacy with God)
Being alone is not a bad thing all the time. Sometimes you should take time to be in the Bible. Take time to read, meditate, and use the Journal Key. Your present intimacy with God will directly impact your relationships with others.
4. Stop sleeping with your phone (Pornography)
For some the temptation of pornography comes when you are alone and at night. Often it is the cell phone that is used to watch it. May I encourage you not to bring the phone into the bed with you. Set up a safe spot in the open that you will allow yourself phone usage. This should not be behind closed doors and in the dark.
5. Caution against what you watch (Temptations)
When it comes to things we watch, sometimes it is not just pornography, but even some tv shows cause us to be tempted to think lustful thoughts or draw us to desire immoral actions. What you consume, media wise, will impact your thoughts and your actions. Take caution.
6. Memorize scripture (Fighting)
I defend this point with Psalm 119:9,11. “ How can a young man keep his way pure? By guarding it according to your word. I have stored up your word in my heart that I might not sin against you”. You can starve sinful desires by smothering them in stored up scripture.
7. Set some limits (Slothfulness)
Beware of how much time you spend being aimless and slothful. Call of Duty, Netflix, Tik-Tok, and other outlets of leisure can be good things. Yet, what we learn from Noah in Genesis 9:18-28 is that over consuming a good thing can impair our ability to live in wisdom and purity.
8. Rest well (Resting)
Sometimes setting a bedtime and a routine helps to keep the mind from wandering in the late hours of the night. Also, a rested body can help clear the head. Take a nap too. There is a difference in the slothful rest and restorative rest. Pursue the latter.
9. Work hard (Responsibilities)
As the saying goes, “You need to put your hand to the plow.” Sometimes what is missing in our lives is a way to fulfill the biblical mandate to work and take on responsibility. Go to work, set up daily chores, be creative/innovative, workout. Do something that strains the body and/or mind. When David failed to take on responsibility, he fell into sexual immorality. - 2 Samuel 11
10. Resist the Devil
Honestly, this is the catch all. Even if you do 1-9, Satan can still tempt you in ways we would have never even planned for. He is crafty and he comes to kill, steal, and destroy. So, beloved, resist him in the power of the Holy Spirit. It is called spiritual warfare for a reason. But if you resist him, he will flee from you. -James 4:7-8
11. Draw near to God
Yeah, I know this is 11 but 10 sounded better in the title. I want to encourage you because the most sure fire way to resist temptation is by zealously, intentionally, and frequently drawing near to God, fleeing immoral desires. My brothers and sisters, if you are a Christian, your God is jealous for you. He desires for you to be set apart for his purpose. Your purity is how you display your holiness. You best believe that just as you come near to him, he is coming near to you.